Bringing a new baby home is often described as the happiest time of your life. For many new parents, it can also feel exhausting, lonely and confusing. If you have been feeling low since your baby arrived, please know that you are not alone, and you are not failing as a parent. In this article, we answer the questions we hear most often about postnatal depression. We cover what it is, how to spot the signs, and how you can get the right support.
Understanding Postnatal Depression
1. What is postnatal depression?
Postnatal depression (PND), also called postpartum depression, is a common mental health condition that can develop after having a baby. It is a real illness, not a sign of weakness or a reflection of how much you love your child. The NHS (UK) explains that symptoms can begin during pregnancy, soon after birth, or at any point up to a year after your baby arrives. The good news is that it usually improves with the right treatment.
2. How common is postnatal depression?
Postnatal depression is far more common than most people realise. KK Women’s and Children’s Hospital (KKH) reports that it affected about one in 14 women in Singapore before COVID-19, and that cases rose during the pandemic. A 2025 KKH-led study found that around one in four women screened within 12 weeks of giving birth showed signs of probable depression. In other words, if you are struggling, many other new mothers are quietly going through the same thing.
3. How is postnatal depression different from ‘Baby Blues’?
The ‘baby blues’ are very common in the first days after birth. You may feel weepy, anxious or irritable, often without knowing why. According to the NHS, these feelings usually fade within two weeks. Postnatal depression lasts longer and feels heavier. Here is a simple way to tell them apart:
- Baby blues: start within a few days of birth, come and go, and ease by around two weeks.
- Postnatal depression: lasts beyond two weeks, may start later, gets worse over time, and affects your ability to cope day to day.
Key takeaway: if low mood lasts longer than two weeks, or you feel it getting
worse, it is time to talk to someone.
4. What are the signs of postnatal depression?
Postnatal depression looks different for every one. Common signs listed by the NHS include:
- Low mood or finding it hard to enjoy anything
- Feeling hopeless, or that you cannot cope
- Feeling guilty, worthless, or like a ‘bad’ parent
- Constant worry, fear or anxiety
- Restlessness or irritability
- Trouble sleeping, even when your baby is asleep
- Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
- Struggling to bond with your baby
- Thoughts of harming yourself or your baby
You do not need to have every symptom to deserve support. Even a few of these signs are worth taking seriously.
5. Who is more at risk of developing postnatal depression?
Postnatal depression can affect any parent. Sleep loss, hormonal changes and the demands of a newborn all play a part. Some factors can raise your risk:
- A history of depression or another mental health condition, including during
pregnancy - Recent stressful life events, such as a bereavement or job loss
- A premature or unwell baby, or having twins or multiples
- Limited support from family or friends
- Relationship difficulties
- Experiencing domestic violence or abuse
- Having a risk factor does not mean you will develop postnatal depression. It simply
means you may benefit from extra support early on.
6. Can fathers and partners get postnatal depression?
Yes. Dads and partners can also become depressed after a baby arrives. Mind points to pressures such as lack of sleep, money worries, extra responsibilities and a changing relationship. Partners often put their own needs last. Your mental health matters too, and the same support is available to you.
Getting Support For Postnatal Depression
7. When should I seek external help?
Reach out to your GP, polyclinic doctor, obstetrician or a mental health professional if:
- Your low mood lasts longer than two weeks
- Your symptoms are getting worse instead of better
- You are finding it hard to look after yourself or your baby
- Your feelings are affecting your relationships or daily life
The NHS encourages parents to get help even if only some signs are present, because recovery is more likely with treatment.
If you have thoughts of harming yourself or your baby, please seek help straight away. In Singapore, you can call the Samaritans of Singapore 24-hour hotline on 1767, or go to your nearest hospital emergency department.
8. I feel ashamed of being judged. Can I cope on my own?
Feeling ashamed is very common, and it is one of the biggest reasons parents stay silent. The 2025 KKH study found that most women would turn to their partner first, while only about one in six would approach a healthcare professional. We want you to know that postnatal depression is a medical condition, not a personal failing. Leaning on loved ones helps, though it is rarely enough on its own. Left untreated, symptoms can linger for months and affect your bond with your baby.
Pro tip: if saying it out loud feels too hard, try writing down how you have been feeling and hand it to your doctor or therapist.
9. How can a psychologist or counsellor help with postnatal
depression?
Talking therapy is one of the main recommended treatments for postnatal depression. UK guidance from NICE recommends guided self-help for milder symptoms and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) for moderate to severe depression.
At Us Therapy a psychologist or counsellor will work alongside you to:
- Give you a safe, confidential space to talk without judgement
- Help you notice and challenge harsh thoughts, such as ‘I am a terrible mother’
- Build practical coping skills for anxiety, sleep loss and overwhelm
- Explore changes in your identity, relationships and expectations of parenthood
- Involve your partner or family, if you wish
- Work with your doctor if medication might also help
The NHS notes that many antidepressants are safe while breastfeeding.
10. How long does postnatal depression last?
According to the NHS, postnatal depression usually improves within three to six months, though it can sometimes last longer. Getting support early makes a real difference to how quickly you feel like yourself again.
11. What can I do to look after myself?
Small, steady steps support your recovery alongside professional help:
- Talking openly about your feelings with someone you trust
- Accepting practical help with meals, chores or night feeds, so you can rest
- Taking a short daily walk, as gentle movement can lift your mood
- Joining a parent support group to feel less alone
- Making time for small things you enjoy
- Avoiding alcohol or drugs to cope, as these can make low mood worse
You Do Not Have To Go Through This Alone
Postnatal depression is common, treatable, and nothing to be ashamed of. Reaching out is a sign of strength and care for both you and your baby. If any part of this article feels familiar, our team is here to listen. Book a confidential session with one of our therapists and take the first step towards feeling like yourself again.
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Misha Oey, Clinical Psychologist at Us Therapy
Misha is a Dutch-trained clinical psychologist and neuropsychologist with over a decade’s experience. Known for her calm and kind manner, Misha is a respected practitioner for new mothers.